Wednesday, 7 November 2018

Learning about hypnosis

Learning is an essential ingredient of life. We learn as a baby to demand food from our mothers. We learn behaviour that gets us things when we are a child and we learn when we go to school or university. But learning never stops there. The problem is that we think we know things until something goes wrong in life or we feel unhappy.



Hypnosis is not magic or scary but it can help you to learn amazing things about your abilities and feelings in life.

Hi I'm Linda, a hypnotherapist. I'm proud of what I do because I an help people to learn how to use the power of their minds to make change. And all this is done through suggestion. This can be self suggestion or suggestions given in certain ways from others such as a hypnotherapist.

Positive suggestions can help people to learn how to stand up and give a speech, how to get that sense of achievement and confidence back or how to help the body to look after its self.

But as a hypnotherapist my job is also to keep learning. I do this through attending conferences, reading and other professional development activities. I also have professional supervision and I'm a supervisor myself. Sometimes I also need to learn from myself and reflect on what I am doing and how I am feeling. That's important when I meet so many people with problems. This is about my self care.

This weekend I went to the UK Hypnosis Convention in London. It was a great way to mix with like-minded people and learn. Now my toolkit of helpful techniques is much bigger I'm sure I will be able to help my clients to learn more and deal with their issues.

So if you want to learn more about hypnotherapy contact me. I offer free sessions either in small groups or one to one explaining hypnosis and how I work. You could learn something amazing like I did when I first learnt about hypnosis.


Regards
Linda


Wednesday, 31 October 2018

The Importance of feedback for good mental health and development

Hi I'm Linda. I help people to stop the pain related to too much stress and anxiety and help them to get on with their lives.


One way I do that is by acknowledging the importance of feedback.

Getting and giving feedback is essential to our development, it's part of of what humans needs.

Today I would like to talk about lots of areas that we need feedback especially if we are feeling anxious or uncertain in life.

Feedback is about communication. In the communication loop someone sends us information, we receive it and send back a reply. This is feedback.

Many people who come to see me have low confidence, low self-esteem or are feeling anxious or depressed so feedback is an important acknowledgement to recovery.

Our bodies give us feedback. So if you are depressed or feeling anxious your body language often portrays this. Some people look sad. Some people dress in dark colours and don't bother with their appearance. Anxious people often breathe quickly or fidget, or have darting eye movements as they are on alert for danger. People who lack in confidence and self-esteem can make their body look small or less noticeable.

We also give feedback through our speech. This could be the volume. Depressed people may speak quieter. Anxious people may be frightened to speak out so they say nothing. This may happen to people who have a fear of public speaking or feel anxious in social settings with strangers.
The tone of the voice is a way of getting feedback as well. Maybe some depressed people have a monotonous tone of voice. A very anxious person may have a higher pitch of voice. If an anxious person is suddenly confronted with their fear or phobia, such as with a fear of spiders, they may scream. This is all feedback to others.

We all give ourselves feedback. Some deep thinkers, depressed and anxious people or people with a problem will keep telling themselves negative things in their head. Its our critical self that talks about things you should or ought to do. This has been called our mind monkey working. The problem with giving ourselves this negative self talk is that it may not be true. This is because we assume some things. For example, if you keep telling yourself all the things that you think other people are saying about you then you are mind reading. The truth might be that the other person is thinking positive things about you or thinking about someone else, but you continue to give yourself this negative feedback. There are many cognitive distortions that are giving you the wrong feedback.

Lots of people tell me negative things about them which I often work out are not true either. In these cases people who are anxious or depressed say that they aren't very good at anything but with prompting I can usually find lots of positive things about them. Its how they are feeling that allows them to keep telling themselves negative things.

Receiving feedback can be difficult for some people even if the feedback is complementary. This maybe because the person hasn't had positive feedback much in the past or because they have the belief that they don't deserve it.

But we all need to know when we do something wrong or positive feedback when we have done some thing right. Its part of learning. I love to help people to learn so I would like to give you a few tips on how you can give people some positive feedback.

Firstly notice the good things. If you have a work colleague or a friend that has done something well stop and say thank you but make sure that you say what is pleasing you and why so they can accept the feedback. You could even send a kind email and acknowledge hard work. As long as the feedback is genuine and not every day this will help the person to grow.

Secondly notice peoples body language. If someone doesn't look their usual self then politely enquire if they are okay and if there is anything that you can help them with. Everyone has an off day but is there a pattern emerging? Acknowledge any problems or difficulties that they maybe experiencing but refrain from giving lots of advice especially if you are not an expert in the subject, rather signpost them to people that can help. If its a health related problem getting a check up from a doctor is always a good idea.

So feedback is something to think about. Its always important for our health, well-being and development.

Linda
Awaken the Change






Thursday, 25 October 2018

How has your day been?

I've  had a good day working today. Many people complain about work but I feel privileged to be able to work and help people.

I help clients who are struggling with stress and anxiety or bereavement and loss to reduce the pain and feel so much better.  This means that I see adults from all backgrounds with many problems from work or personal stresses, fears and phobias, Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS), worries, relationship problems and much more.

Today I helped a lady who needed to talk after the loss of her dog as pet bereavement counselling is also an area that I want to help with. I'm a great animal lover and so I know that losing a pet can be very painful.

Sometimes I work late catching up with paperwork or marking students assignments; that's OK because I can then focus more on clients during the day rather than the paperwork. But I got a shock this evening when I suddenly realised that I was being watched!


This is Mini my dog. Perhaps she felt she needed a bit of attention too but she didn't say a word!

If you want to reduce stress and be happier in your work I might be able to help.

Bye for now.
Linda

Wednesday, 24 October 2018

Things people say who feel anxious

Over the years I have heard people describe anxiety in many ways. It can be different for different people but here is a list of things people commonly tell me when they have been diagnosed as suffering with anxiety.

I'm posting this as I want other people who are feeling anxious to know that they are not alone in having one or more things on this list. Of course there are other reasons why you might have these things so you should get a health check to rule out other causes.

The list is not exhaustive but I hope it highlights that anxiety can involve lots of negative thoughts and feelings.


  • Feeling a disappointment
  • Feeling overwhelmed
  • Feeling stupid
  • Feeling unable to speak up
  • Feeling stupid
  • Feeling shy
  • Feeling criticised
  • Resenting yourself for not knowing
  • Trying to read other people's minds
  • Thinking that everyone is judging you
  • Worrying about everything
  • Wanting to be perfect at everything
  • Feeling unable to walk into a room of strangers
  • Thinking you might be going insane
  • Looking fine but feeling terrible on the inside
  • Feeling passive, not assertive
  • General caches and pains for no reason
  • Blushing easily
  • Tummy problems like Irritable Bowel Syndrome
  • All or nothing thinking
  • Feeling panicky or trembling
  • Feeling exhausted
  • Denying anything is wrong
  • Feeling unhappy
  • Relationship problems
If you think you are suffering with anxiety now is the time to do something about it to feel better. Talk to someone today.
Kind regards
Linda

Monday, 1 October 2018

Reduce Anxiety with Horses

I am always searching for new ways to help people to reduce their stress and anxiety because everyone is different and we all need choice and information to make the right decisions to change.


This weekend I visited an equine assessed therapy centre in Somerset.

For me a persons mindset or beliefs are always important to consider. So if you don't like horses and don't believe that they can help you then quine therapy may not be for you. Yet having some hypnotherapy could be the first step to banishing any fear of horses because once you have got past that barrier it will be easier.

Horses have been utilised as a therapeutic aid for many years.

The purpose of my blog today is to help you realise the value of horses in reducing anxiety.

Going to see an equine therapist involves going outside and walking in nature. That process in itself has been shown to help people feel grounded and reduce stress and anxiety. Mindfulness or meditation could also be incorporated.

Then just like going to see a counsellor or psychotherapist you will be assessed to find out more about you and the problem that you want to change.


Then you meet the horses. It can be an experiential learning experience when you watch and connect with the horse. You may notice the horse's behaviour or feel the breath of the horse. Sometimes you might be invited to carry out tasks with the horses such as grooming, leading or feeding. Some places may even allow you to ride the horse. Throughout this time you can talk if you want to or just enjoy the time. The therapist observes you and guides you to connect with the horses to help you to feel calmer. Nothing is rushed and therapy practice is developed to meet the needs of the individual.

So if you have a fear of horses contact me and find out how I can help. And if equine assisted therapy appeals to you then contact me and I would be happy to direct you to this amazing place in Somerset.

Kind regards
Linda

Thursday, 27 September 2018

There are many ways to relax

Lots of people say to me that they can't relax. My answer is that they just haven't learnt how to relax.
In this blog I would like to tell you a few different ways that you can relax. Not every way is right for every person but if you are feeling stressed, anxious and want to relax this might help.



1. Meditate
2. Do Mindfulness
3. Do Self - hypnosis or see a hypnotherapist
4. Gentle exercise such as walking
5. Have a massage
6. Use complementary therapies such as acupuncture, acupressure, aromatherapy, reflexology or EFT
7. Practice deep breathing
8. Do Progressive Muscular Relaxation
9. Eat a well balanced diet
10. Soak in a warm bath
11. Listen to music
12. Be with close friends an loved ones
13. Squeeze a stress ball
14. Visualise positive things
15. Write things down that are on your mind
16. Watch a comedy film
17. Dance
18. Stroke your dog or cat
19. Take a holiday
20. Talk with friends

What else could you add to this list? And if you still can't relax and feel anxious then its time to get a health check and maybe see a therapist.

Linda
Awaken the Change


Tuesday, 25 September 2018

Are you suffering with Brexit Anxiety?

Brexit Anxiety

Yesterday someone asked me if I dealt with anxiety related to Brexit as he thought that business people are displaying anxiety. Then later in the day a relative said that she couldn't listen to the television anymore because everything was about Brexit and it was making her feel stressed and anxious.



This made me think about the millions of people who could be affected by Brexit in some way across Britain and the European Union. So now I am calling this anxiety that people are feeling with the changes as Brexit Anxiety.

Brexit Anxiety could affect individuals and groups or companies.

This blog is not about politics. Its not about the rights or the wrongs of Britain leaving the EU, rather its about the often hidden emotions and feelings of anxiety that are sweeping the country. This is happening because Brexit is about change and change brings anxiety. Its natural that the mind tries to logically work out what will happen to the individual and the people that they care about around them but sometimes there are no answers and the mind races with negative thoughts that have an impact on how we feel and behave.

Brexit will bring many changes so people are worrying because these things are often out of their control. Most worries will be about economic issues, personal finances, where they will live, work  and relationships. For many people also its the fear of the unknown.

Anxiety happens when we feel threatened in some way. Its a fear or apprehension and it feels negative and uncomfortable. If it continues to rise anxiety can lead to panic attacks and ill health so its something not to be ignored.

On reflection, I even think some people were suffering with Anticipated Brexit Anxiety before the referendum and the decision to leave the EU was made. It seems that this was due to people not thinking that they had enough information.

So at the moment the decision has been made, we are leaving. And now we are in the negotiation stage of deal or no deal.

This brings feelings of uncertainty and that's scary. Uncertainty is perceived as unsafe, yet most things in life are uncertain.

Brexit Anxiety also stirs feelings of anger and frustration. Maybe the anger is due to leaving the EU. Maybe the anger is about not getting what you want or being able to influence politics. Whatever it is caused by anger and frustration that continues for a long time and isn't released is unhealthy. It's part of our 'fight or flight' response where primitive man fought the problem or ran away from it.

So how can we deal with Brexit Anxiety? Well you could do things like the two people did that I spoke to yesterday- you could talk about it or you could switch off from it.

I believe its about getting life in balance. So eat well, exercise and talk to the people around you that you care about. Recognise the things that you can control and the things that you can't control. Ask for help in difficult times. In some cases that maybe your doctor if your think your health is getting affected, or you could talk to a counsellor. But I think one way of reducing your Brexit Anxiety is to prepare. Prepare for the uncertain times and reduce risks.

I'm going to observe this Brexit Anxiety more now. I'm also going to try to help more people relax because being relaxed helps you to reduce the anxiety.

Kind regards
Linda
Awaken the Change